Morning Musings: October 22
A truly valuable and edifying exercise is to make a list of what I say to myself and what the truth actually is. I take a piece of lined paper and make two columns, labeling one list “What I Tell […]
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Morning Musings: October 21
The beauty of rationalizations is that they are always partially true. But they are only “part” of the story – the part I want to hear and buy into. They are never the whole story. It’s that grain of truth […]
read moreMorning Musings: October 20
Rationalizations are a technique that appeals to the “thinking person” (I like to tell myself) because they are not a such blatant blow off, but allow me to give myself an intellectually plausible explanation for my behavior. In some ways, […]
read moreMorning Musings: October 19
A great way to call my bluff on my promises about future payback is to ask myself to nail down the specifics of the promise. If I find myself resisting commitment to when and how I plan to reconcile my […]
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What’s the real problem? The real problem for me is often that I really don’t want to or am not convinced that I have to, not that this is not the right time, or that the circumstances need to be […]
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Since promises are always about the future, a good way to tell if I am bull****ing myself is to ask myself if there is any real reason why I have to plan this for the future, why I can’t do it […]
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All promises really mean is not now. They work so well because I can pretend that I am willing to take responsibility for my actions…just not this red hot minute. They soothe my conscience. I don’t have the guilt of […]
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If I just buy into a blanket justification, I may miss an opportunity to find the real problem…and solve it. Case in point: I have a client who came in one week having eaten particulary badly (for her) with the […]
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It’s not just bull****. On the one hand, I may have no intention of following through on some plan and the reason I give myself is purely permission not to. On the other hand, behind every legitimate excuse may be […]
read moreMorning Musings: October 13
A great way to check the legitimacy of my excuse is to ask myself if there is another way to accomplish whatever it is. If I am unwilling to even explore other alternatives, chances are I am just trying to […]
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